As promised, I wanted to talk about the controversial Netflix show 13 Reasons Why. A lot of people have a lot of different opinions on it, but I have to say that I really liked it. Just know that there will be spoilers, so keep reading at your own risk.
I can see how people might think that it encourages suicide, how the tapes might seem satisfying for someone being bullied to send to her bullies. I just really don’t think the show encourages that, quite the opposite.
On to the Show
In both season 1 and 2 of 13 Reasons Why it shows the repercussions that someone committing suicide can have. Not just for the families, but for the whole community. And it is such a major issue. But to say that the show encourages suicide is the same logic as saying video games encourage violence. The problems existed prior to said show/video games.
And it’s a problem that really touches me. I was bullied in elementary school and to a lesser degree high school. There were mean girls in my high school, like probably every high school. And I had and still have days where I wonder if life is really worth it. But having those thoughts and taking action on those thoughts are two different things. I think that to get to a point where you see suicide as the only option, it’s unimaginable. It means that this person has absolutely no hope that things will ever get better. And that just makes me so sad.
Going back to the show. Hannah’s suicide scene itself. It is so graphic, so raw and just devastating. I can’t imagine it doing anything but deterring someone who is thinking about it with any seriousness. I know for me, when I have dark days, it’s my family, my friends and even my cats that keep me here, but also, just thinking of HOW i’d do it. It’s SCARY. I can’t imagine the finality of it. Let alone the fact that so many who attempt it and are thankfully not successful so often say they regret it and are happy to be alive.
More on Season 2
The second season mostly focuses on the repercussions of the Hannah’s suicide, and how everyone is coping. Also how Alex is recovering from his attempted suicide that happened at the end of the first season. There are some that think the second season was unnecessary, and that some aspects of it aren’t realistic. But I really liked it almost as much as the first season.
It was nice to flesh out the character of Hannah more, and see her relationship with Zack that we didn’t know about in season 1. That she did have some happiness in her life before things went dark for her. It was sad to see Hannah’s parents and how they had ended up. So many parents don’t stay together after the death of a child.
Bryce and Bullying
The show also touched on Bryce, and how he raped it turns out, several girls. Not just the two we know about. And this is one thing I guess I didn’t like, because it felt like the show was starting to tackle too many issues in such a short time, but of course it was a big part of season 1 and they couldn’t not touch on it. It was mostly the women in court all talking about their experiences. And of course as a woman I feel for them, it just felt a little bit too much like catering to what is going on in the past year in Hollywood I guess. But I am all for giving it as much a voice as it needs for it to stop happening, or even for it to happen less.
What was most hard in season 2 of 13 Reasons Why was the bullying of Tyler. There was a very brutal scene of him being viciously attacked by some other boys and I felt for him. Because truth is stranger than fiction. And I can imagine that there are other teens and kids out there being bullied to even half the degree Tyler was. And the bullying doesn’t end when you go home like it did for me, now there is Facebook and Snapchat and Instagram and cell phones even, it doesn’t stop for some of these kids.
So you can imagine how he could be driven to want to take an automatic weapon to the school dance. Thankfully because the kids in the show have found some resolution, some healing, and some justice and they come together to stop it. Okay, mostly Clay does and we are left with a cliffhanger and hoping for season 3!
I do hope there’s a Season 3 of 13 Reasons Why in some ways, but also wonder if maybe things will get too drawn out. I had the same concern with the second season though and was pleasantly surprised.
We’ll see what happens!
If you need help, PLEASE seek help
Because of the nature of a show like 13 Reasons Why, I would be remiss without saying that if you are struggling, in whatever way. Please, seek out help. Whether from a helpline if you have nobody in your circle to talk to, or a friend, a family member, a professional. I don’t want anyone to ever feel so helpless that you feel you need to take your own life. Honestly I hate to think of anyone struggling, whether because of anxiety, depression, bullying, sexual assault, for any reason. That is why I write this blog, in hopes to help others, and to help get my own thoughts down in the process.
Okay, I will write a new blog tomorrow, it will be my jumping off point. I have my groceries and I am ready to go in my next round of 131!
Until then 🙂