It has been a very sad week in the food and fashion industries. We lost giants in Kate Spade and Anthony Bourdain who both committed suicide this week.
I am not the type of person to spend hundreds of dollars on a purse so I can’t say that i’ve ever owned anything Kate Spade and I am not a big foodie, but my brother and sister-in-law are. And they were devastated by the news of Anthony Bourdain.
I have to say his death hit me harder. There was something so likeable about him, even if he wasn’t always that universally likeable. But he seemed to have good values, always fighting for the rights of latin-american people in the restaurant industry. He had overcome drug problems and was doing so well for himself. I loved watching him get drunk in Montreal on his show the layover.
Selfishness and Suicide
We were talking at work about these deaths when we heard them from the news and everyone had differing opinions. Some people thought it was so selfish of them to leave behind children, and how could they do that, with all their successes and money?
But money isn’t everything. Not by far. I learned that very young. Our family was never well-off, but we always had enough, and my parents made sure we had a great childhood. Despite the money-struggles that many middle-class families have from time to time, we were a generally happy family and still are.
Yet, I know/knew, or know of many rich people who aren’t happy or suffer from mental illness and/or substance abuse. Whether it shows in alcoholism, drug abuse, or mental illness, the point is, money does NOT buy happiness.
You can have all the success and things you want in life, but have an unhappy marriage, or no relationship at all. Maybe you feel alone at the top and don’t have friends who can relate to you. It could be any number of things. But certainly, having all the success in the world does not equal happiness, and certainly doesn’t guarantee mental health.
My own opinion on Suicide
If you’ve been reading my blog for a fair amount of time, you know that I have strong views about mental illness and removing the stigma from it. It breaks my heart that someone can get to the point where the only option they see in front of them is taking their own life.
I want to say this and say it loud. There is NO shame in asking for help. There is NO shame in seeking the help of a professional. Chalene Johnson says that it’s one of the healthiest things you can do. It takes a strong person to seek counseling, to recognize that you need help or that it would be a good idea to get some before the real need arises.
I admit it, it took me a long time before I bit the bullet and went to talk to a psychologist. My friend kept encouraging me, and now I just wish I could see her more! Although there are times where I have nothing to say, so I try to space my appointments out for when I really need them.
But there have been times where I have felt close to suicide. I have never tried anything, but have come close to thinking about it. I just don’t know that I could ever do it. And the thought of leaving my family behind, that always stops me.
I just wish that these two individuals had sought help. I feel for their children being left behind, and what must be going through their heads and the minds of their other loved ones, I just can’t imagine. I’m reminded of Robin Williams, still to this day, the celebrity death that has hit me the hardest. I just wish that they could have seen just a sliver of hope, or reached out to someone to avoid this final an act.
Do you know that many people who attempt suicide regret it? How many have died and just at the very end when it was too late couldn’t do anything to stop what they had done? That gives me the chills.
I will end it with this video. Just to show you how much power you can have over someone, if you just are there to help. I encourage you to look for the warning signs if you have anyone in your life you are fearful for and reach out to them. Do everything you can to let them know they are valued, they are loved and the world would not be the same without them.