So I don’t care what anyone else tells you, I am the queen of over-thinking. My mind can outrun ANYONE else’s. I think that this is one of the biggest issues people with anxiety face on a daily basis.
We will be the ones thinking about a conversation hours, or even longer after it happens. Replaying it over and over again in our brains. Thinking of how it could have gone better. Reading into things that aren’t there. Worrying about what the other person thinks of you or what happened.
In reality, chances are the other person isn’t even remotely thinking about that conversation. I find it helps to think about how narcissistic it is that I think said other person is still thinking about it (as much as I am). They have tons of other stuff to think about.
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It really does help to do a reality check when you’re over-thinking about something. I mean how likely is it that what you’re reading into a situation from some subtle cues or otherwise is actually true? How often does the worst case scenario really happen? Almost never.
I find that when I am caught in an over-thinking cycle, that making peace with the worst case scenario of whatever the situation is really helps me also. For example, if I am worried about what the other person thinks of me, I ask myself, why does it matter? If that person really cares about me, then they don’t think lowly of me. And if they don’t care about me, well then that’s not someone I should have in my life.
The best thing though by far for me is to take stock of what IS in my control vs. what isn’t in a particular situation, or just life in general. I center myself and do my best to let go of all that I can’t control. After that, I do what IS in my power to change for the better whatever it is i’m over-thinking about.
Also, I just wanted to let you know, for those who did see my contest blog post. I see some of you subscribed to my blog, but there is another option to follow. I’m trying to figure out where the disconnect is happening, because I don’t know what the difference between the two is. Don’t worry, I will be having the contest still, but the draw will most likely happen closer to the end of the year. I will repost again closer to that date and I have your names down to be included in that.
I’d really like to have my blog grow a bit more before having the contest for real, I will keep you posted.
It seems there was a delay at customs for my FabFitFun box so I haven’t received it yet! Really hoping that I get it for the weekend so I can do my first video blog and show you all the awesome stuff that comes with it!
And Sunday as usual I will update you on my progress with the 131.
I would still encourage you to follow my blog and comment so I know who is interested in what. This blog is for me AND you. I want to help others in similar situations so give me some feedback and share away to anyone who might benefit from this.
I’m also compiling something special for those of you who are on my email list, so be sure to sign up when you see the pop up! Just in case you missed it, you can also sign up further down.
One more thing, I read this great blog post about anxiety the other day that I wanted to share with you. So relatable! You can check it out here at DiscoveringyourHappiness.
Until next time!