anxiety, mental health

Over-thinking – How to combat it

Over-thinkingSo I don’t care what anyone else tells you, I am the queen of over-thinking. My mind can outrun ANYONE else’s. I think that this is one of the biggest issues people with anxiety face on a daily basis.

We will be the ones thinking about a conversation hours, or even longer after it happens. Replaying it over and over again in our brains. Thinking of how it could have gone better. Reading into things that aren’t there. Worrying about what the other person thinks of you or what happened.

In reality, chances are the other person isn’t even remotely thinking about that conversation. I find it helps to think about how narcissistic it is that I think said other person is still thinking about it (as much as I am). They have tons of other stuff to think about.

Best coping mechanisms

It really does help to do a reality check when you’re over-thinking about something. I mean how likely is it that what you’re reading into a situation from some subtle cues or otherwise is actually true? How often does the worst case scenario really happen? Almost never.

I find that when I am caught in an over-thinking cycle, that making peace with the worst case scenario of whatever the situation is really helps me also. For example, if I am worried about what the other person thinks of me, I ask myself, why does it matter? If that person really cares about me, then they don’t think lowly of me. And if they don’t care about me, well then that’s not someone I should have in my life.

The best thing though by far for me is to take stock of what IS in my control vs. what isn’t in a particular situation, or just life in general. I center myself and do my best to let go of all that I can’t control. After that, I do what IS in my power to change for the better whatever it is i’m over-thinking about.

Housekeeping

Also, I just wanted to let you know, for those who did see my contest blog post. I see some of you subscribed to my blog, but there is another option to follow. I’m trying to figure out where the disconnect is happening, because I don’t know what the difference between the two is. Don’t worry, I will be having the contest still, but the draw will most likely happen closer to the end of the year. I will repost again closer to that date and I have your names down to be included in that.

I’d really like to have my blog grow a bit more before having the contest for real, I will keep you posted.

It seems there was a delay at customs for my FabFitFun box so I haven’t received it yet! Really hoping that I get it for the weekend so I can do my first video blog and show you all the awesome stuff that comes with it!

And Sunday as usual I will update you on my progress with the 131.

I would still encourage you to follow my blog and comment so I know who is interested in what. This blog is for me AND you. I want to help others in similar situations so give me some feedback and share away to anyone who might benefit from this.

I’m also compiling something special for those of you who are on my email list, so be sure to sign up when you see the pop up! Just in case you missed it, you can also sign up further down.

One more thing, I read this great blog post about anxiety the other day that I wanted to share with you. So relatable! You can check it out here at DiscoveringyourHappiness.

Until next time!

 

 

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anxiety, Getting out of Debt, goals, mental health, personal development, self-esteem, weight loss

131 update – week 1

131

I didn’t get the results I was hoping for during my first week on 131, but to lose almost 2 lbs even with all the unplanned eating out, that’s a testament to the plan! Just please disregard the first thing in the morning feet. I need a pedicure lol.

I had my usual trivia went out with my coworkers for dinner and a movie on the Tuesday and worked really long hours all week so I didn’t eat as well as I’d like for dinners.

That’s ok. I just need to plan better this week, and I did. I have my pork tenderloin ready to go for 3 lunches and thawed some sausages out so I have them ready when needed. Going to go into the week better prepared!

Other than trivia tomorrow and having a fajita night with some friends on Wednesday, I should be okay to stick to plan this week. And as Chalene says, you shouldn’t aim to be perfect all the time. This 131 program is not one size fits all and you just have to do what works for you and do better the next day if you slip up.

I am happy to be headed in the right direction at least. And I have set up a budget too that so far I’ve been sticking to.

Finances Update

Of course life is what happens when you’re making plans, so it turns out I will need to buy new snow tires come winter. Not impressed with the second-hand car. Never doing it again! As soon as my credit card is paid off I might look into a trade in.

I also decided to sign up for the WordPress event happening here later this summer. I am really enjoying the blogging and want to continue. Hoping that you guys seeing my progress can help you in some ways too.

Anxiety – Fear of Abandonment

I had some anxiety when it came to my friends this week. I just can’t shake these fears of abandonment. This is a new goal. I really need to find ways to not fear being alone in future. Right now I am ok, and that’s what matters and what I can control. I feel sometimes like Chandler from Friends, and that every fight or argument equals a breakup lol. And it’s not healthy.

Call to Action – Upcoming

Alright. Well I would really love it if you guys followed me on social media, you can check out the links below and would love to hear your comments on the blog, anything else you’d like to see from me. Sunday’s will always be an update, but the other post or two during the week are for other related topics, so let me know if there’s something you want to see in the comments!

Oh, and I should be getting my fabfitfun box any day now. I will do an unboxing so you can join in the fun!